I have come to realize that one of the biggest issues facing many women are insecurity. We tend to be insecure about so much when it comes to our personal appearance. I admit that I have a few of my own. One of the many issues is weight. 


I am only 105 and 5'2. Now that may seem ideal to you, but it's tough when people say things like "OMG, wut are you? A size negative 0?" or "U r so skinny". How about the men who say more booty is the way to go. There is always room for me to feel rejected. I have never thought to tell a thicker woman "OMG, what are you a size million?" 


Through out the years I have battled with my many insecurities. Then one day, as I stood in the mirror observing all I wanted to correct about myself, I realized that if I did not love me how could I expect anyone else too. I had to love me just as I am first. I had to love me just as I am before I could form any changes. The inward change would produce the result of the outward change I desired.


This encouragement I pass on to you, sister. You were created and a wonderful creation you are. Stand in that mirror today and embrace all that is of you. From the thoughts that makes your personality, to every curve that defines and shape your shell. It is yours. It is a gift, because there is no one like you in this world. You have a purpose and you were made inside and out to serve that purpose. You, my Sister are a GREAT being. Bask in knowing that. Then watch the real beauty and sex appeal unfold for you. 
 
Many women who are tapping into their sensual side may feel a concern about their appearance. This is perfectly normal. I mean, society has not made it easy for any ordinary woman to compete with the women we often see in the media. We weigh too much (in some cases, too little), we have over bites, we have limp hair, we do not wake up with flawless make up on, we have corns, we have no time to invest in looking like super models

I don't know about you, but I am a single mom of two boys who drops everything they touch on the floor. I'm also a full time student, a part time baby sitter (always on short notice), and the list of roles goes on and on. I can certainly relate to lack of time to invest for your self. But it must be done. Even if you carve out 5 minutes a day to start, it is better than nothing.

How can one give anything they do not possess for themselves? Even if you give all your blessed time away, eventually you will feel depleted and you eventually will be no good for those around you. Running on auto pilot is not the business, ladies. Dare not to consider establishing time for yourself as selfish. As a matter of fact it is an investment that everyone that you are blessed with benefits from. 

These 5 minutes are yours and are more precious than rubies. Treasure them and use them wisely. Rest, pray (give them back to God), exercise, sing, write, day dream, what ever you want. They are YOURS. Turn off the phone for those 5 minutes. If it is important, believe me... they will call you back. The point is to make these 5 minutes YOURS

Share with us how you spent YOUR 5 minutes, and what has been the result.  


 
 
Picture
Hi there my fellow Sensual Sisters. This is the first blog and I am so excited about bringing what I have learned about being a sensual woman within the exotic dance industry to YOU.  

I use to work for a strip club in Las Vegas. I had no idea what I was getting into, but I knew that I wanted to make money and FEEL SEXY. Well, to make a long story short, the women can be harsh (every woman for herself), the men can be beyond nasty, and the only way to get ahead (for most of us) was to either to be full of silicone or willing to do special favors for the managers.

I eventually left after I had done the 2 years I promised myself to do. Remember, that it can  be a job that can suck you in due to the cash pay. I got the experience that I wanted, full of thankfulness for what I learned, and was ready to move on.


Just when I thought it was all behind me, I found no peace being just the girl next door. I really liked the power I had over men. I did not consider myself a bombshell (that's one of the reasons why I kept a terrible shift). I certainly was not a slut (which is the other reason why the managers did not want to promote me to a better shift). Yet, there is an unspoken power behind being sensual. I lived it and I loved it.

I had to release this urge some how. I would go out to nightclubs to dance and hang out, only to have men begging me to go their hotel rooms. I was flattered. All I did was dance and it was not a lap dance either. I would dance with someone and move on to another after a few songs and change of company, only to find that the one I left before was waiting for me. Every night I went out it was this way.

Every woman should know this. Wives, wives-to-be, wives in training, and even the single diva (but she must be tastefull and resposible in her actions).  So now I am sharing with YOU what every woman SHOULD KNOW.

So enjoy the website and bloggs. Looking forward to your growth as a Sensual Woman.